Love
between two emos can be
extremely strong and powerful.
This is because, guess what …
they are very emotional!
With emos, a great deal of time
is spent looking inside in a
world of imagination, deep
thoughts, which tend to be
related to very strong feelings.
Emo love reminds me of a book
called Upside Down
Brilliance by Linda
Silverman, she says that it is
right-brained people who are
introspective, musical, and
highly emotional. They are
blessed with the emotional
capacity to be creative,
empathize, and of course, love
deeper than others! But these
right-brained children are also
more sensitive, and thus were
more prone to be hurt or
traumatized by peers or parents.
Dating guru Sean Messenger
agrees that such hurt children
begin to turn inwards away from
the world and explore what is
inside.
Many
grow up to spend a lot of time
alone for such things as
reading, philosophy, music, and
writing poems. During this time,
they are in a unique and complex
world that no one seems to
really understand - even
friends. And this is why it can
be so powerful when two emos
meet. It can feel like you were
meant to be. Finally, you have
someone to share all of these
deep and wonderful emotions
with, someone who can feel your
deepest pains… someone who
gets you. So live
it up. Love like you’ve never
loved before. Play, laugh, cry,
and cherish your inner child
together. You may experience
some of the highest emotions of
life as an emo who has found
love. It is a blessing for
someone to allow you to see such
intimate sides of themselves,
and this is what it means to be
in love.
But
beware! This is also why Emo
partners can be especially
sensitive to hurt from their
partners. The inner child still
sees itself as fragile and has
finally found long awaited
salvation from past hurt through
romantic love. Now you guys are
expected to take care of each
other’s fragility. When the
inner child is showing itself
and entrusting itself to another
person, it is vulnerable. The
inner child’s highest joys and
deepest pains from what is
really personally inside will
come to the forefront. Arguments
over nothing may become
everything. It can be shocking.
But don't fall for it. The pain
is not caused by you. You've just
exposed it. Just be there for
them like you would a crying
child and own up to any mistakes
you've made.
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It can be very scary to have the
person closest to you deliver
you the greatest hurt. At its
worst, tears will roll. Words
will fly. And flaming locusts
will descend from the
netherworlds to end all that you
know. You may be in for one emo-tional
rollercoaster! This is what
happens when expectations to be
each other’s saviors from pain
are not met. But as John Legend
says, we are just ordinary
people. We can’t be perfect
lovers. So if you keep all this
in mind, you will be prepared
and know your emo partner is
just acting out of pain when
they seem to be hating. Again,
be there to help each other and
try not to react to each other's
pain. Try to work things out and
grow together. It is a chance to
heal the deepest part of you.
But
if you break up or your emo
partner does something foul to
you, don’t get bitter. I know
there is quite a lot of
misogynistic music and songs
about romantic bitterness in
emo. Find songs that allow you
to surrender to the sorrow and
explore your hurt, and stay away
from songs tell you that you are
a victim or should be bitter.
That is addictive fake
strength and you deserve better.
Emo, at its best, is supposed to
be about emotions and feeling
them to grow. Even in loss, it
is just as great of an
opportunity to grow, heal, and
find self love. By the way, this
applies for non-emo people as
well. It’s just that with emos
can be and tend to be more
emotional on average. No matter
what happens, I wish you well as
you move forward.
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